Yesterday, my husband and I celebrated one year of marriage. One year of marriage isn’t a long time by any means but I have learned a lot this year about how to navigate marriage and all the trials and tribulations you will go through as you go through married life. Continue reading for some lessons learned from a year of marriage.
Lessons Learned from a Year of Marriage
Compromise is key
I’ve always been a huge advocate for compromising. No one can get their way 100 percent of the time so being able to compromise with your spouse is super important. Michael and I are pretty good at compromising, especially when it comes to what we’re going to do on date night. We try to do one restaurant/movie that one of us wants to see and then alternate the next time.
Never stop dating
I don’t mean this as in never stop going on dates but as in never stop truly learning more about one another as time goes on. If we stop trying to explore marriage and learn more about our significant other, then you will eventually start to lose the spark that you once had. It’s important to keep that spark alive.
Marriage is not a competition
Although being able to pull your own weight in a marriage is necessary, marriage should not be viewed as a competition. It can certainly be frustrating sometimes when you feel like you’re the only one chipping in with housework or something of that sort but some seasons of life aren’t going to be 50/50 and that’s completely okay.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned throughout the course of this year is to not sweat the small stuff. If it’s something that won’t matter a week from now, then why let it ruin your day? It will only hold you back from the good things in life.
It’s okay to go to bed angry
I never thought I’d be the one to be giving out this advice because for the longest time I was one of those people who could absolutely never go to bed angry. But sometimes, its just necessary. Sometimes staying up way past your bedtime to hash things out is not going to make anything better and you’ll wake up feeling just as angry and heated about the situation as before.
Pick your battles
Another key lesson is that you really need to pick your battles. Is it worth starting an argument because your husband didn’t put his laundry in the hamper? Probably not. There are worse things that your spouse could do so it’s important to pick your battles and really figure out what is necessary to argue about.
What is your biggest lessons you have learned from being married? Please feel free to let me know down in the comments.